Domestic Violence: What Stops a Victim From Leaving and How a Lawyer Can Help | Allan Brandon Tise, PLLC, Attorney at Law

June 7, 2023

If you have ever experienced an abusive marriage, you know how scary and difficult it can be to try to get out of that situation. At times it can feel like all the cards are stacked against you and you cannot catch your breath. Fortunately, no matter how hard it may be to get yourself out or ask for help, a lawyer can help you get out of the hostile situation, find a better future, and assist you in the following areas that may be of concern.

No Financial Resources

Someone who has experienced financial abuse from a partner will may not have enough resources at their disposal when they decide it is time to get out of an abusive relationship. Abusers will often purposely cut off their partner's financial resources so that they cannot leave when they want to, as they feel they need to be the ones in control of the relationship.  If you are leaving an abusive marriage, you should talk to a divorce lawyer before you leave your abuser. A lawyer who works in domestic violence cases will have resources for you. A lawyer can also help you secure any of your assets when you leave. A lawyer can also help you file a lawsuit against your abusive partner. While the lawsuit may not feel like enough justice after everything you endured, you could be financially compensated for all of the financial loss you experienced during your marriage. If you file for divorce, a lawyer can advocate for spousal support if you are a financially dependent spouse.

Fear for Personal Self or Property Safety

When you are in an abusive relationship, your partner may assert their physical dominance time and time again, making you feel afraid of them. It is common for an abusive partner to threaten the victim's life or safety if they try to leave the relationship. Sometimes they may extend that violent threat to the family members of the victim to further scare the victim into submission and compliance.  If you have experienced this, do not hesitate to reach out to a lawyer. A lawyer can help you get an emergency protection order in place to ensure you are safe while you wait for the court hearing regarding the one-year restraining order. Emergency protection orders will protect you until your domestic violence hearing. These orders will prohibit your abuser from contacting you in any way. They are not allowed to be near you physically. Sometimes it can even ban them from owning a gun. Having an emergency protection order can provide you with a sense of safety and peace of mind after you leave an abusive partner.

Children Are Involved

Someone with children may choose to stay in an abusive marriage so they can watch over the children. They may also feel they will not be able to house or feed their children so they may decide that staying will be better or safer for the children. If the children are not getting abused, the situation may not seem as urgent but it is. Victims may also fear that there is not enough proof of the abuse to get custody of the children and they will be given to the abusive parent. Protecting your children is just as important as protecting yourself. 

Contacting a lawyer is the best decision to make. When you are getting your emergency protection order, you can request that it also give you emergency custody of the children.
If you are leaving an abusive marriage, 
contact us at Allan Brandon Tise, PLLC today. We can get you started on the protection orders to make sure that you and your children can start your new lives in peace just like you deserve. 

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